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Every Season. Every Space. All for Him.
Every Season. Every Space. All for Him.
May 19, 2025 | 12 min read
Elizabeth Hauenstein, guest author
Motherhood is filled with joy, laughter, and sweet baby snuggles. It’s a special season of pouring out of ourselves into the young lives of those that God has given us to steward. It is fulfilling work.
And while those moments are real, so too is the quiet loneliness that can settle into a mother’s heart. Whether it’s the long nights rocking a fussy baby, the exhaustion of caring for little ones without adult conversation, or the sense of isolation that comes when friendships shift, mothers experience loneliness in ways they never expected.
For me, it looked like isolation from those who understood the season of life I was in. My husband and I got married young, I was freshly twenty-two (as in, our wedding was four days past my birthday), and my husband was twenty-one. Less than a year later, we found out we were expecting our first child. It was an answer to prayer, something we had hoped for and eagerly anticipated.
But as the excitement settled in, so did a quiet realization—no one else in our circle was in the same stage of life. Our friends were still single; focused on careers and spontaneous adventures. Even within our families, marriage and parenthood were still distant milestones. I couldn’t help but wonder: What will my life look like when our baby arrives?
After our first baby was born, our social lives didn’t change much. We still had friends over and went out, thanks to the immense blessing of nearby family eager to babysit. But despite things looking the same on the outside, loneliness quietly took root in my heart.
As a stay-at-home mom, I craved more than just company—I longed for someone who truly understood. The late-night feedings, diaper changes, breastfeeding struggles, postpartum body changes, and the storm of hormones fueling my anxiety and anger—it felt like no one else could relate.
Seven months later, I found out I was pregnant again. Excitement mixed with hesitation as I stepped into another new season of motherhood. By then, our friends were getting married, but children weren’t on their radar. I withdrew, wrestling with deep discontentment. Maybe we should have waited. I have so much I’d rather do than be home all day. No one understands, and no one seems to care. Lord, why am I here?
Loneliness often whispers lies into our hearts—“You’re the only one who feels this way,” “No one really cares,” or “You must be doing something wrong.” But the enemy thrives in isolation, making us believe that our struggles are unique and shameful.
The truth is, most mothers experience loneliness. The shift in identity, the change in friendships, and the relentless demands of caregiving can make it hard to connect with others. Instead of getting overwhelmed by these feelings and turning inward, we must combat them with God’s truth. We must renew our minds.
Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
I remember asking a seasoned mother about the anger and discontentment I was struggling with, and she brought me to this verse in Romans. When we are facing seasons of difficulty, we tend to react without thinking. We allow our emotions (and our hormones) to control the way that we think and act. She encouraged me to think on this verse and said, “when we are struggling, we have to renew our minds with the word of God. It’s the only way that we can overcome sin and combat lies.”
A helpful resource for this is Transformed Into His Likeness by Armand P. Tiffe. This little handbook lists out the most common sins a person struggles with and uses the exhortation in Colossians to “put off” our old self and “put on” our new self that is found in a relationship with Christ. It lists verses to meditate on to encourage “putting off” and then verses to help you with “putting on.”
So, if we’re going to use this idea for loneliness in motherhood, it would look something like this:
The Lie: You’re alone.
The Truth: You are never alone. Deuteronomy 31:8 “It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”
The Lie: This job of motherhood is a waste of your time.
The Truth: Psalm 127:3 – “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” or Proverbs 31:28 – “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” Children are a blessing from the Lord, a reward given to those who have them. And a mothers work is not in vain, for if she works diligently, God’s Word says that her children and her husband rise up and call her blessed.
The Lie: You have no purpose here.
The Truth: Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” God has a purpose for you, even in this season of loneliness.
And we can continue to do this with every lie that might come into our minds. This is why it’s so important for us to diligently study the Word of God, as it is our strength in every season.
Often, when we feel lonely or discontent, we get so caught up in what other people are doing, or not doing, for us. “No one reaches out to me.” “No one invites me to hang out anymore.” This mindset is rooted in and driven by pride. Normally, we think of pride as thinking super highly of ourselves, but while that’s true, pride also is thinking down on yourself. I love the way C.S Lewis describes humility, the opposite of pride: “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.”
So, to humbly navigate a season of loneliness in motherhood, we must turn outward rather than inward. We see this example in Christ, who was betrayed by one of His closest friends. Matthew 20:28 says, “even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
God created us for community, and even in motherhood, He calls us to seek and build relationships. So, instead of focusing on ourselves, it’s important that we seek out opportunities to serve others, rather than expecting to be served. The same mother who encouraged me to renew my mind also said this to me:
“I was so caught up in myself. I wondered why people stopped inviting me to places. I saw another mom who seemed to always be with people, so I asked her how she managed to have friends even while having 7 kids. She said to me that it wasn’t because people invited her, but that she sought to bring people in. She told me that the calling of motherhood isn’t about what we get, it’s about what we give and what we’re teaching others about Christ’s love for us.”
We are in need of community. In fact, we are commanded to not neglect the gathering of believers (Hebrews 10:25), to serve others (1 Peter 4:10), and confess our sins to one another (James 5:16).
And while finding deep connections may feel challenging, we can take small steps to cultivate them. Here’s how:
And even in our effort, we have to be willing to say, “Lord, even if I have no one, I have you. And that is enough.”
As I sought to take that seasoned mother’s advice to dig into the word of God in the midst of my loneliness and discontentment, the Lord proved Himself faithful to me once again. I was feeling spiritually dry due to the fact that I had turned so inward in my discontentment and loneliness that I neglected to meet with the Lord.
So, I began in the Psalms. Specifically Psalm 63, and the Lord began to soften my heart once again with these verses:
O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you;
my soul thirsts for you;
my flesh faints for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.
So I have looked upon you in the sanctuary,
beholding your power and glory.
Because your steadfast love is better than life,
my lips will praise you.
So I will bless you as long as I live;
in your name I will lift up my hands.
My soul will be satisfied as with fat and rich food,
and my mouth will praise you with joyful lips,
when I remember you upon my bed,
and meditate on you in the watches of the night;
for you have been my help,
and in the shadow of your wings I will sing for joy.
My soul clings to you;
your right hand upholds me.
And then, the Lord gently reminded me once again of my desperate need for Him. My soul was dry, my heart weary. I had been searching for someone to understand my struggles, longing for human connection, yet I had overlooked the One who knows me more intimately than anyone ever could—the One who truly sees, understands, and meets me where I am.
Hebrews 4:15 says, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.”
My God, who saved me, also knows me more intimately than any person ever could, and He sympathizes with my struggles, weaknesses, and even my loneliness. I was reminded that Jesus was abandoned by every one He loved, and even the Father turned His face from Him on my behalf. You can’t get any more alone than that. And God desires for me to run to Him in my loneliness, to remember His constant presence, and know that He is the friend that sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24).
When we are struggling with loneliness and feel as if no one understands the season that we’re in, we can run to the throne of grace knowing that, even if we had no one else, we have Christ. There is great, unconditional friendship found in the God that made us, knows us, and loves us.
While friendships and community are a blessing, no relationship will fully satisfy the deepest longings of our hearts—only Jesus can do that. When we bring our loneliness to Him, we are reminded that He is our closest friend.
As you navigate motherhood, let Psalm 63:1 be your prayer:
“O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you; my flesh faints for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.”
He is enough for you, even in this season. You are seen, loved, and never alone.
So, when we are struggling with loneliness, we must remember to turn our eyes upward instead of inward. Remember the truth of Scripture that the work we are doing in raising our children is holy, God-honoring work, and that, even if no one is standing with us, nothing can separate us from the love of God:
“For I am sure that neither death nor life, neither angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39 (ESV)
Download the “5 Prayers for Moms Struggling with Loneliness” to print and keep around your home to remember you are never alone.
Elizabeth is a wife of four years, a mom to two littles under two, and a follower of Christ with a heart for encouraging women in their faith. Through her writing, she hopes to share biblical truth, prayers, and reflections to help others seek God in everyday moments. When she’s not writing or taking photographs, you’ll find her enjoying coffee and quiet time.
Elizabeth is a wife of four years, a mom to two littles under two, and a follower of Christ with a heart for encouraging women in their faith. Through her writing, she hopes to share biblical truth, prayers, and reflections to help others seek God in everyday moments. When she’s not writing or taking photographs, you’ll find her enjoying coffee and quiet time.