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Every Season. Every Space. All for Him.
Every Season. Every Space. All for Him.
June 9, 2025Â |Â 5 min read
Crista Moriah Simonowich
While attending church in California, I noticed—and developed a crush on—the worship leader. He had cool hair, tattoos, style, and voice. I even spilled the tea about liking him to my mom and sisters.Â
A fellow believer told me something like, “Who knows? Maybe he’ll be into you someday.”Â
After that conversation, the realization settled in that, yes, a guy that attractive could actually be interested in a girl like me. I have struggled with feeling desirable because I have never been on a date as of yet—or had a guy interested in me that I know of.Â
As a single woman who is affected by anxiety, I find one of the hardest parts of my journey is not knowing if my dreams align with God’s plan for my life—especially when it comes to sharing my life with someone.
Will I finally date, become engaged, get married, have babies? Only Jesus knows. I find myself twenty-eight, restless under the question mark of whether or not these seasons will come to be.Â
Watching life unfold for other people around me is a genuine struggle. Social media does not help with the endless scroll of celebration milestones so different from mine.Â
I ultimately fear that loving and being loved by a man will not happen for me at all.Â
Can you relate to the weariness of the hoping-disappointment cycle? It’s a loop that only God’s word can pull you out of.
The verses that have given me the most hope when I start to feel anxious about my relationship status comes from Ephesians 3:20-21, AMP:
“Now to Him who is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly more than all that we dare ask or think [infinitely beyond our greatest prayers, hopes, or dreams], according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations forever and ever. Amen.”
The beauty here is that we may carry desires that go deep and beat strong, but the things Jesus has planned for us are “infinitely beyond” our dreams. It may look the same and just take time, or maybe it is much more unique and wonderful than what we could imagine.Â
And since the Father cares about even the “smallest detail” of our lives, I know that because this area of my life is so important to me, it is to him too (Matthew 10:30-31 TPT). Jesus invites us to hand over the stress that accompanies cares like these in 1 Peter 5:7, TPT:Â “Pour out all your worries and stress upon him and leave them there, for he always tenderly cares for you.”
Honestly, I have yet to discover the secret of being content, but when I had the worship leader crush, I kept praying, “Jesus, I surrender my desire for romance to you.” It ended up being a helpful spiritual strategy because it turns out, the worship pastor was not single. Such a yielding heart posture not only gets lack of romance off your mind, but it leaves it with him who can wisely handle the intricate tangle of emotions and hopes we carry as women.
My hope was refreshed recently when I asked Jesus if there was actually a guy who was available for me.Â
He answered with a comparison: just as I am eager to hope for romance in a book or movie, I should not give up hope of romance for my own story, but give the paragraphs, pages, and chapters a chance to unfold to see what he intends for the book of my life.Â
Are you restless, too? Does it feel like a challenge to hope for love after waiting longer than you’d care to? I encourage you to let Jesus provide real answers to the longings you carry.
As a single woman, give yourself the permission to hope and the space to surrender your dreams and desires to the beautiful plot line Jesus wrote for you before your were born (Psalm 139). His timing is perfect. There will be relentless beauty and love, day by day—may we have the eyes to behold and receive it all (Psalm 23:6).
 I’ll be here waiting patiently beside you, friend. 🤍
What truth has enhanced your life in the wait?
Jesus,
I surrender my desire for romance to you. When anxiety and doubt cloud my heart, remind me that your plans are infinitely beyond my dreams. Help me break free from the hoping-disappointment cycle and find joy in each unfolding chapter of my story. Open my eyes to your daily gifts of beauty and love. As I release my timeline to you, fill me with peace, knowing that whatever you’ve written for my life will be more beautiful than I could imagine.
Amen
Moriah desires to share the lessons the Lord is teaching her in each season. She enjoys writing sessions with iced coffee nearby for sipping, sometimes a lit candle, and always good music. Moriah is currently studying in college. Her favorite way to connect with Jesus is through two-way journaling.
Moriah desires to share the lessons the Lord is teaching her in each season. She enjoys writing sessions with iced coffee nearby for sipping, sometimes a lit candle, and always good music. Moriah is currently studying in college. Her favorite way to connect with Jesus is through two-way journaling.